Wednesday, July 30, 2014

If It's Too Tight....Talking On The Edges

What are your first thoughts when you see this picture? I'm pretty sure it goes along the lines of "Oh she's doing her hair" , "Looking slightly rough". Or maybe not, I can only assume. I wanted to talk about roots and edges. Now the reason why my hair is half done, is not because I was in the middle of doing it. I had already braided it up earlier in the day, but after being bothered with the feeling of my edges being tugged but Edge Monster, I took it down, gave my scalp a 10 minute break and re-braided *gently and looser*.
Now I've noticed that some styles that females and males wear, whether it's braids, weaves, puffs or twists are edgy, tight and nice. Let's go back to the second word "tight". Now how tight is too tight for a style? Have you ever heard of Traction Alopecia?
***Traction alopecia is a form of alopecia, or gradual hair loss, caused primarily by pulling force being applied to the hair. This commonly results from the sufferer frequently wearing their hair in a particularly tight ponytail, pigtails, or braids.
Now if you can feel consistent pulling on your roots, tugging on your edges, even developing an headache. Then it's time to take down/out that style. No hairstyle is worth losing your hair over. I mean think of Naomi Campbell? All the constant pulling and tugging of her hair, causing her hairline to run for the hills.
I am telling you.
I know it looks good and everything.

But is it really worth it?


So ladies and gents. If it hurts you, take it out. If your child is saying it hurts a lot, you better bust out the coconut oil and go with Plan B. I hope this little article in my corner brings awareness of this condition.

Texture Shots, Mini Length Check, Shrinkage, Oh My The Deception!

 Here are some lovely texture shots. This was a day or so after my mini twists were taken out. My hair is super coiled/curly. The front as I always said, is an looser texture than the rest. But yes with me, the shrinkage is for real. Especially when it's pretty deceptive about my truth length. I told my boyfriend's sister's friend that my hair is near my collarbone/shoulders. He looked at me like I was lying. I'm telling you! (This picture was taken last week or so)

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Mini Twist - First Attempt to Protective Style/Fail

Last week Tuesday/Wednesday I had did my first attempt in a protective style. Following in the footsteps of Whitney (Naptural85) I tried out mini twists. It took me only a day only because my hair isn't super long, but long enough and I rushed a wee bit. After I was done, I was on top of the world! My hair had some hang time, even though it didn't really show my true length. I had visited my boyfriend, whipping my hair around with a goofy smile on my face. As the day went by, my twists set and stretched a little....but....I slowly felt restricted. Now you see I've never had my head mini twisted before. So this was very foreign to me. 
The more time in the day goes by, the more I wanted them out. I turn to my online group and one person said "Challenge yourself". My response? Nope they are coming out. In by Wednesday, out by Friday afternoon. As much as I wanted to give myself a change/protect my hair I couldn't deal with the twists. I love running my fingers along my curls, yes I do have a HNH (hand in hair) problem. I haven't gone bald yet, knock on wood (lol). I was much happier without them in, I felt free as a bird. Will I ever do them again? Don't know. Will I ever do any type of protective style? Who knows. So far my hair has come this far, without some type of protective styling. So I really don't think its all that necessary. But hey who knows what the future may hold for Frolisha. Until then, puffs and bows, puffs and bows.
Here are two photos of my short lived twists (sorry for the cross face, I was tired in both pics ): 

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Me and My Best Buddy

Me and my boyfriend at the Justin Timberlake concert July 9th. Probably can't see but I flat twisted the front, and work my hair in a curly puff in the back.

Friday, July 18, 2014

First Attempt At Perm Rods!

During the past few weeks, I've been getting bored with my hair. Not my texture or anything, I love my texture. I just been bored with the same "style", which normally consists of tying my hair up in a puff, or sometimes a stretched fro with a head band or twisted in front. But I've just been getting bored. I go to my BFF YouTube and my natural hair groups on Facebook for some style ideas. A lovely woman goes by the name MissVeeHolistichaircare from the blog Coily Queens Rock, gave me an idea of roller setting my hair. I didn't have magnetic rollers, but I did have a lot of perm rods that I have never used before and decided to put them to work. Check out the results below and I'll tell you what I used!
Mostly successful! I only say that because I had some issues with the back, thinking due to the size of the rods. I did run out to Sallys to grab an different sized pack of rods. How I got my hair that shiny was:
*Freshly washed my hair with shampoo, and deep conditioned as well using Organix Coconut water shampoo and Trader Joes Tea Tree Tingle condish.
*After I wash out all product from my hair, I blotted each each, with my Turbie Twist towel to pull excess water. Then I use the LOC method using Silk Elements leave in crème, Avacado oil and 100% pure raw African shea butter to seal everything.
*Then at the very end of applying moisturizers, I sectioned smaller pieces of my hair and used Motions wrap foaming lotion to set, then roll up the rod on my hair. Repeat the process with each big section, then part off the hair into smaller sections for the rods.
I did blow dry my hair, at first was on cool to low heat for 30 minutes, but after seeing that my hair was still wet and Frolisha (the name of my hair) she was like "Why you playing?" so I used medium heat for 20 minutes and my hair dried (I really should invest in a bonnet dryer). I'll admit I kinda looked like the grandmother from Family Matters. One lesson I have learn is that to close to NEVER, rod set my hair after I washed it unless I plan on staying at home for the day, and I damn sure wasn't going to walk around in public and go to work looking like Big Worm ("What up Big Perm! I mean Big Worm" - in my Smokey voice). Next time I will just twist, wait till my hair is dry, then use the perm rods.
Well that is it from me for now, until next time. See ya on the flip side!

Friday, July 4, 2014

Uncle Tom's Corner: What is #Teamnatural To You?

I've been meaning to write this blog for a minute, just didn't have the time due to being busy. Within a short period of time I've have made some changes within myself. It all started the day before yesterday while surfing through one of the natural hair groups on Facebook, someone posted an article the Curly Nikki featuring a white woman with curly hair. I read it and applaud the woman for accepting her own natural beauty. I was like "Yes another not conforming to societal beauty standards!" but as I scrolled down the comments left were very heartbreaking to me. Apparently a lot of black females disapproved of this "white" woman and Nikki for featuring it. Some threaten to leave, while others huffed and puffed how they feel that she cannot be part of the natural movement.

Let me pause for a second: I always have thought the natural movement, was about not conforming to what society deems "beautiful" not just with hair, but body as well. I also thought it was about encouraging people to accept and work with what you got. If you got frizzy hair, you can work it, tight coils, girl find you some earrings and wedges and a nice scarf. I thought the movement was to help everyone. Ok let's press play.

In one of the groups that this link to the article that was posted, there was a heated discussion over it. Basically the whole group's wall lit up with discussions. I of course put in my two cents....then I was not directly called out by my name, but from one user's comment she said black people are blind and that the people that weren't with the movement are a bunch of Uncle Tom's and support white supremacy. Another female told me directly that I was wrong and that the natural movement was more than what I've stated and that I should be supporting only people in my community. I would post the comments, but I have long left the group. Not because it was hot in the kitchen, but because many of the members views are not of my own as well as just love to argue. Some people just don't know how to agree to disagree.

I guess for some the natural movement is all about, accepting our hair for what it is. Not conforming to the European standards of beauty, getting pass all the challenges and struggles of black hair, fighting the discrimination that black hair face, or what people consider it "nappy". Years of oppression, conformity, bullying, the black struggle....wait what? Ok ok ok so apparently it has a deeper meaning to some. So I can see how some would be miffed about a white female wanting to join the "movement", she cannot relate. Her kind has never faced oppression....but honestly some things should be left in the past.

My grandmother taught me to not live in the past, but remember it and think about what you can do now to make a better future. Isn't this "exclusion" in a way like segregation? I understand what happened, but why feed into it? My problem is how many black females are facing oppression that raised hell over a simple article? How many go thru the black struggle? To be honest....I do not even know what the black struggle is. I've never been oppressed, I've never been taunted because of my race or stereotyped, I've never been singled out, I've only been 10 months natural and work for a local police department, rocked my fro out and never been told that my hair was "unacceptable". You're probably thinking I grew up in the burbs. No. I grew up poor living in the projects, my grandmother did her best to make sure I got what I needed. I participated in activities throughout my youth, she taught me how to speak like I got good sense, be a lady and carry myself, work hard, go thru highschool, went to college, got my degree. I've may have been slightly poor, but never went thru any trouble. So does this mean I cannot be a part of #Teamnatural ? because I've also let go of the past as well. There is no point in blaming someone for something they didn't do directly themselves. That's like if my great great grandfather shot and killed someone, they blame me for it.

So in conclusion I am no longer repping #Teamnatural , it's not for me because my views are white washed by the white man I guess. I cannot and will not exclude anyone out due to race. Black, white, Asian, Indian, they are all part of my vision of the natural movement. I live in a diverse city and been amongst races from all around the world. It's just the way I am and my grandmother is proud of me. I'm repping #Teamjessica from now on since it wouldn't be fair for this Uncle Tom to rep something that she doesn't belong in and never experienced the struggle.

Everybody Love Everybody <3

PS: What does #Teamnatural mean to you?

Here is the blog from Curly Nikki